Over the last six or so years, some of the most significant magical work I’ve done has involved doing internal work to align my desires with my values. You might think that this would be automatic, but I don’t think that’s the case all the time. The challenge of the magician is to know him/herself and until you know yourself, you can’t really know if your values are in alignment with your desires. Thus if you try to manifest a desire that isn’t in alignment with your values, it may not stay with you, because some part of you is resistant to the manifestation.
Aligning your values with your desires involves examining what your desires are and seeing if they match up with your values. If the execution of your desires doesn’t align with your beliefs and values, then the result will be fleetingly. You will sabotage yourself to stay true to your values and beliefs. Not all of these values and beliefs are necessarily healthy, but they are in place as much to “protect” you, as to provide a moral compass to live your life. But being safe isn’t all its cracked up to be, and can sometimes put you in a miserable situation, because part of you wants to protect yourself from taking a risk.
Aligning your values with your desires necessarily means that you need to look at the origins of both your values and your desires. Where do they come from? What influences sponsored your desires and values? Asking these questions can help you understand why you hold to the values you have and why you want what you want. That, in turn, can help you begin to either resolve the conflict between desire and value or recognize if your desire or value is holding you back in some way. Until you question and explore what motivates your choices, you can’t know for certain if you are making those choices because you genuinely want to/believe in the need to do so, or if you are reacting on impulse of one kind or another.