10-23-13 The last couple of days I’ve been working with the three tree spirits and one of the things I’ve been doing is just opening up to them so that I can let them in and let myself feel the interaction with them. This is not something which comes easily to me. Despite how open I might seem on this blog, in truth I am a fairly closed and guarded person, who rarely lets people (let alone anything else) in beyond a certain point. Something Kat has been teaching me is how to open up to someone I genuinely trust and love. I’ve been teaching her the same thing, and its a lesson that takes time to learn. So I’ve been allowing myself to open up to the trees and connect with them on a deep level. When I work with them, I can feel their presence in my body and that has some interesting sensations on its own which has been helpful for me to experience. I am reminded that as much as I am comfortable in some ways with myself and my body and the experience of feeling, in some ways I am not and I am just now allowing myself to be open to the experiences.
10-25-13 I’m frustrated today. My main computer had an update for windows 8.1 and I updated it and then the wireless no longer worked. So I tried to fix it and ended up creating more of a problem. Fortunately I have a professional who can help (hopefully), but afterwards I decided to meditate and calm myself. I knew I couldn’t do anything else about the situation and I also knew that what I really needed to do was simply allow myself to feel the emotion and then let go. I’ve done what I can, and now I can let go.
10-26-13 One of the ways I’ve been opening up has involved allowing myself to really acknowledge the level of love that Kat has for me. I have never experienced being so loved until her. Indeed when I look back at previous relationships what I see, both on my part, and on the part of others, is conditional love, but with Kat I’ve come to recognize it is unconditional love. She loves me for me, as opposed to what I can do for her or what role I can play. It’s truly an amazing gift.
10-29-13 I’ve gotten nothing done in the last few days. When these occasional moods hit me, it’s hard because I’m functional enough to take care of clients and do networking for the business coach business, but that ends up being the extent of it. This particular bit of malaise was brought on by the main computer crashing, which I now have back, but regardless of what the cause is, the end result is not much gets done. Inevitably I wind myself back up and get more done, but it hits hard.
10-30-13 Today I got myself motivated enough to do more, to get moving. And I had an interesting meditation on a symbol given to me during the Oak, Ash, and Thorn workshop. As I meditated on the symbol, the symbol itself went away and I experienced this multi-colored space. Every time I tried to go back to the symbol I was told to let go and open myself to the experience, as well as being told not to mistake the symbol for the experience. So I opened myself to the experience and at some point the subject of measurement came up, and how measurement is used to define reality and also to turn possibility into reality. It reminded me of definitions and reality (and isn’t a measurement just another type of definition). It makes me realize how much measurements and definitions are used to mediate experiences such as space.
11-1-13 Sometimes it’s important to know when to put the brakes on movement. Yes we can allow ourselves to be moved, but at the same time it’s important to consider what we’re moving toward. From my own experiences, I’ve allowed myself to get swept up in a feeling and to act on that feeling without considering the consequences. The problem that occurs is that when you allow yourself to be moved without examining what you are moving toward, you can find yourself in a place you didn’t plan to be in. Its like being on a boat in a river, where you don’t use the oars. you’re moving along fine and dandy, but because you are taking the time to direct the movement, you go down a waterfall or sink your boat on the rapids. Yes, we need to let ourselves be moved, but we also need to provide some direction for that movement, in order to recognize how that movement is effecting not just ourselves but the people around us. This isn’t always easy to do, but it is always necessary.
11-2-13 In meditation today I worked further with a symbol I’d been given during the Oak, Ash, and Thorn workshop. What’s interesting is that as I worked with the symbol, I applied a 3 d perspective to it and it created seven directions as a result, which is something that occurs in the Sphere of Art work, as well as the zeroing work that William G. Gray did. It also occurs in the quablistic sigil of the cube of space. It’s fascinating to see the parallels. I’m going to start working with the other symbols in tandem to see what I discover.
11-4-13 Sometimes I think I’m a beautiful, toxic, monster. It’s an odd belief to have about one’s self and it’s not something I feel nearly so much as I used to, but on occasion it does come to the surface. In a conversation with Kat last night, and in meditation as well, I acknowledged that I have trouble letting other people take responsibility for their end of things. I’m inclined to take all of the responsibility on myself. It’s something I learned early from my step mom and its something which I’ve seen replicated since in other relationships. I learned early on that I was responsible for everything wrong. If my half-sister did something wrong, I ended up getting blamed. And I took that with me into interactions I have even now. I told Kat that on some level I do recognize that there is shared responsibility, but that emotionally its something I’m still processing. Accepting that other people share responsibility is hard for me, in a sense, because if I accept that it also means I give up some control of the situation. However it’s something I’m going to work on because I think it’d be healthy for me to do.
11-5-13 Some further thoughts about other people taking responsibility and how I relate to it. I’ve always felt that if I let other people take responsibility and validate my feelings that I’m taking away from the validation of their feelings. Again this is a pattern I see going all the way back to my step mom. It’s not something which really makes sense, and its actually quite harmful because I’m not really opening up when I don’t take the time to acknowledge my own feelings and pain on a given issue. I also realize it doesn’t really allow me to connect with someone when I don’t share what I’m feeling or allow myself to accept that a person is willing to take responsibility.
11-7-13 Opening up and sharing what you’re feeling without trying to blame, without trying to guilt…sharing for acknowledgement and release. Opening up and acknowledging that responsibility can be shared. That’s what the last couple of days has been like. I’ve been doing some dissolving in my meditation and today I ended up meditating about past regrets of people past and allowed myself to stop taking all the responsibility and let some of it go to the other people involved. I think so much of my regret has really been taking on too much responsibility. And I don’t know if any of those people I meditated on ever did or didn’t own their share of things, but it wasn’t really about that. It was about me acknowledging I didn’t need to be wholly responsible and that I could allow someone else to share in the responsibility. That feels healthier for me.
11-11-13 Today I tried out movement exercises from Healing with Form, Energy, and Light by Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche. When I tried these movements out, what really stuck with me is how present I became with my body and how good that felt to me. It’s similar to how I feel after exercising, but also different, because I felt myself go into a different altered state of consciousness that was more meditative and energy oriented. In fact as I did the movements, I could feel my internal energy respond (as I’ve shared in a separate post) and it felt comfortable to me. I’m going to continue these daily practices because I feel they will help me connect even more meaningfully with movement as an element.
Kat and I also got into some deep conversations this weekend about shared responsibility. It feels good to share responsibility with her and to acknowledge my own need for responsibility to be shared. I was able to say a few things that I’d been holding onto and it made me feel more present with her as a result. And it also made me realize how much of a team we already are, which is something I’d never felt previously with other people. We also meditated on one of the symbols I’d gotten from the workshop and fond that there was a lot of connection to the sphere of Art and William Gray’s Omnil/zeroing practice. I’m not really surprised at that, but it goods to see that someone else got a similar result.
11-13-13 I meditated on another symbol today and it provided another layer to what I’d already been meditating on. I ended up actually combining the two symbols, and they did so seamlessly. Memory and imagination provide the context of past and future, and when combined provide the present as well. The vertice of space provides the base reality through which the horizontal probability of time flow, while Imaginary Time provides access to both improbable and probable possibilities that can be used to shape reality. A possibility becomes more improbably the more it is based in memory (past) or imagination (future). It becomes more probable when it can be linked to space (typically closer to the present). However improbable possibilities shouldn’t stop a magician (in fact a seemingly improbable possibility can become very probable with the right planning and actions linked to magical work). I feel like what I’ve received is further refining my system of space/time magic and it’s something I look forward to developing in even further detail.
Some further reading of Healing with Form, Energy, and Light unearthed this gem: “Though practice will not remove all the difficulties of a life, it will lead the practitioner to better ways to deal with problems…Most people don’t know how to be with a problem and often don’t have a good method of working with difficulties. Instead they have the pervasive idea that problems have substantial causes and that the resolution of the problems lie there…Some people think that to accept problems is to support them, that acceptance means not addressing problems, but that is not what I mean. Accepting that there will always be problems means opening to all of life, not only to what is positive, but to everything.”
He makes a really good point. There will always be problems and its ok to accept that, to accept them and be present with them. I think, from my own experiences, I’ve tended toward trying to solve problems, trying to move away from them, but not always really making the effort to be present with them. If internal work has taught me anything its that your problems are part of you and unescapable, but that they don’t have to define you. Additionally if you make time to really sit with them, really be present with them what you can uncover is so much more than the “cause.” You can uncover a lot by just being present. Learning to sit with your problems can also teach you to really be present with yourself and others effected by those problems. Instead of trying to run toward a solution, toward a place of not having the problem, why not accept it and really explore it? It will likely be uncomfortable, but it will also teach you a lot.
11-16-2013 I’m listening to The Rolling Stones song “Down in the Hole.” It’s a song I listen to whenever I’m feeling down on myself. It’s a great song to listen to when you feel like crap because it just hits those feelings and expresses them (which I think is a good thing). Today I was working on the web and flyer copy for a couple different classes coming up. Writing copy, for me, is hard work because it’s really focused on concisely explaining why someone should sign up for a class, but a book etc. I can do it, and I even have a formula for it, but it challenges me as a writer. But that’s not why I’m listening to this song.
I’m listening to this song because I’m feeling a bit down on myself today. Call it the movement working or the Dark night of the soul I’m experiencing due to Pluto being in my chart. Call it just letting myself feel those feelings and be open to them, and letting the song express those feelings for me. I think maybe why I’m listening to this song as well is because I’m working my tail off as a self-employed business person and while its a journey getting incrementally better, it’s taking a lot of work to get those increments. I’m not complaining, because I know that’s true for many people who go out to be self-employed, but listening to this song lets me, for a moment, just be in that hole and allow myself to feel the pain and hurt I sometimes feel. Because sometimes I do feel it…sometimes I just suffer, just like anyone else I suppose. And I don’t have a problem admitting I feel this way sometimes. It’s a lot less often than it used to be, but sometimes I feel this way, and today is one of those days.
11-20-13 Something I’ve discovered through experience is that the more secrets you hold onto, the more weighed down you get by all the crap that comes with those secrets. I guess a collective “duh!” might be in order, but I think for most people this isn’t nearly the common sense it seems to be. Because the truth is we carry secrets with us all the time and not just the obvious ones either, but also the small secrets, ones that you keep from yourself as well as others. the secret can even be something where instead of being about how you feel, you say you’re fine. And it all adds up eventually. I think that the so-called mid-life crisis is an example of secrets adding up to a point where the person just has to do something to get those secrets off him/herself.
For me opening up isn’t just about opening up to someone else, but also opening up to me. It’s about letting the walls down within myself so that I can know and trust myself better, and consequently extend that to the really important people in my life. It’s about letting go of the secrets I’ve held onto, large and small, and seeing them for what they really are: Not protective defenses that keep me from being hurt, but walls of a prison that keep me from really connecting meaningfully with people in my life. I see that as I continue to open up to Kat, while it may not initially be easy, it does makes the relationship much better because there is openness between us. But first I need to be willing to open up to myself so that I can be truly present with myself, instead of continuing to act out old patterns of behavior. Doing that allows me to be ready to open up to other people.
And how all that relates to movement? Movement is a lot easier when you aren’t carrying burdens that hold you back from really being present.