Posted on February 21, 2013
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1-23-13 I’m filled with self-loathing today, of an intensity I haven’t felt since over 3 years ago. I’d say that for the most part I’m generally not filled with self-loathing, but occasionally it happens, especially when I let someone down. Anyway I’m filled with it and I tried to exercise today. I managed to exercise, but it was probably one of the hardest sessions, because I didn’t feel into it in the way I do when I’m happy. If anything I felt kind of nauseous and heavy and unbalanced. I did the movements, but I had more trouble focusing on them. The part of myself that I consider to be the magician observed all of this with fascination, making mental notes that I could later share here, but the rest of me just felt so much pain and anger toward myself, and guilt over feeling like a burden.
I think about what I wrote earlier today, in the last entry for month 3, about how the recognition that you aren’t moving or that you are moving very slowly can help you recognize obstacles in your life. I feel like I am the biggest obstruction to my own movement sometimes. I think if you’re aware enough, you inevitably recognize that at least some of the non movement in your life is caused by yourself and your own dysfunctions. And as much as I make progress, sometimes I am just slogging through as best I can. Today is one of those days. I am grateful that this kind of day is rare now. There was a period of time where a day like this was something I experienced pretty much every day. I don’t feel this way normally…but the next time I do I don’t think I’ll exercise that day.
1-24-13 My self-loathing culminated in a fever. I was sick all of last night…aches and a high temperature. It was a purging of all these emotions I was feeling, aided by a cathartic discussion with Kat about the issues at hand. This morning the fever was gone, as were any of the emotions. I felt like a new person, released from what I’d felt. New possibilities seemed to show up through the day. Sometimes the way to move something is to simply experience head on and fully embody it…not pleasant, but afterwards its purged.
1-26-12 So much for not being sick. I managed to break the fever on Thursday because I basically drew on internal resources to do it. I adrenalined my way over it, which lasted until Friday night, when I didn’t need to be social anymore. So I’m sick again and just trying to rest, hoping it’ll be gone by Monday, which is another busy, busy day.
2-1-13 I’ve been thinking about creativity and sexuality, and how they are expressions of a person’s life energy, but also how they can effect each other. Too much of one expression can lead to a dissolution of the other. I have been reviewing my periods of creativity and I’ve noticed that I’m at my most creative when my sexual energy is focused and at my least creative when my sexual energy is unfocused. This has helped me understand periods of non-creativity and also helped me appreciate the relationship I’m in now. It’s also made me realize how even minor interactions have been a distraction or spreading out of my energy. I want to focus my energy on what really matters, so I’m watching my interactions with more conscious intent, so that I can refocus on my goals and creative work.
2-06-13 I’ve been noticing that as I do the Tae bo exercises there’s a point where I’m not really doing them so much as being them. I’m not trying to exercise, so much as I’m falling into and becoming the motion of the exercise. I relax into the exercise, into the motions and the exercise experience changes as a result. I feel more present with my body and feel an intimate sense of connection with each motion that consequently makes me feel really good. The effort is there, but it’s not me acting on my body, so much as aligning with it. I’ve never had that experience before, but I think its come about because of the work with movement as an element. I’m more consciously aware of each movement and how it makes my body, my being feel as it resonates throughout me.
2-7-13 Sometimes movement is really about intuition and more specifically what intuition is providing in the way of information. I got this intuition earlier today that the next couple of weeks would be important for my businesses. We’ll see what happens, but in general my intuition seems to be spot on and I could just feel this movement, this awareness of movement for my life.
2-10-13 Kat and I have been reading Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships, which discusses the topic of grievance at some length. The other night I realized that by holding on the grievances of past relationships that I was still involved in those relationships. It doesn’t matter if I haven’t seen or talked to the person in a while. By being emotionally engaged with that person I am still in a relationship of sorts, albeit a toxic one that doesn’t benefit me. I recognized this and it made me look at how my grievances carry those past relationships into my current one, which consequently then effects my interactions with Kat in ways that don’t keep me present in my relationship with her. This realization really helped me look at some of my behaviors and choices in a new light, in a way that I think will help me account for when I am feeling a grievance of the past so that I can dismiss it and focus on the present.
2-12-13 Sometimes I feel like a failure as a business owner. I have clients who I’ve helped grow their business, but growing mine and making it viable seems to be out of reach. Than at other times I feel like I’m on top of the world and I actually get this whole business thing and know what I’m doing. From working with my clients, I know this is something every business owner feels. But at the same time I do feel alone as well. Being a business owner is lonely, because if you have people to commiserate with at some point you also have the reality of owning your business, with all the work that goes with it, to get back to as well. Kat reminds me that I rebranded my business last year, basically started over at square one, and on top of that really started to make magical experiments into a business as well. I just want it to get easier. And yeah I know I’m whining, but I’m allowed on occasion. I work my @$$ off for my businesses.
2-13-13 Today I’m feeling much better about business. It likely helped that I went to a networking event where I got a couple of ideas on how to enhance my business offerings, as well as meeting up with a few familiar faces. I do feel a current of movement happening…with both of my businesses. I’m trusting it and enhancing it because it is tipping the odds in my favor. And once I hit the tipping point, away I’ll go.
2-14-13 A quick realization about grievance. I can hold grievance in a different space from the actual relationship I am in and recognize how grievance is influencing the relationship. When I choose to open up about my grievances and share them from a place of vulnerability, without applying them to the relationship I am in, I can help Kat understand them for what they are and we can work together to recognize and defuse them. I did that this morning with her and I was able to let myself feel the pain of that grievance without attaching it to our relationship. I felt much better afterwards. I also felt liberated by the process and feel that I can continue to use it to help me grow as a person, as well as in the relationships I am in.
2-16-13 Another realization about grievance. On a deep level grievance is something you use to justify why you are fucked up, why you are dysfunctional, why you are unloved. It says, “See here is all the supporting reasons to show you are unloved and unwanted.” On a different note, I’m at Pantheacon, which always brings up a mixture of memories and emotions, as well as feelings about whether I really belong, or wondering where my community is. Why does it bring all that up? Likely because I feel like a fish out of water in some ways. I am not a partyer for instance so I don’t find visiting the hospitality suites to be as much fun because most of the people are there to party. There is a lot of small talk that happens and small talk isn’t what I want. I crave deep conversations, or doing magic, or something else along those lines and sometimes I get that…I just have to find the right hospitality suite. Kat and I ended up in the People of Color hospitality suite and got into a long conversation about privilege and some of the challenges the POC faced getting a hospitality suite. And afterwards I chatted with a fellow about his book idea and I’m looking forward to getting it.
And I’ve been observing other authors. The really successful ones like, Thorn Coyle and Christopher Penczak, have a community and teams of people to help them realize their vision. Thorn even has videos and I seek book release parties left and right for various authors. I realize what a deficit I am operating at. I’ve been going it alone for so long as an author, and to a large extent as a publisher as well. Kat and I have talked a bit about what we can do to change that and on the drive back to Portland we’ll discuss it further, but even one of my authors expressed concern about the amount of work involved for me. I appreciated that.
Actually one of the highlights of pantheacon has been talking with several of my authors, ones from the beginning and more recent ones, who expressed appreciation for Immanion Press and the work we’ve done and how I and Storm have helped out. I felt deeply touched when one author told me that she couldn’t even begin to express how much she appreciated my help and how much she felt I’d contributed to and influenced her community through the Immanion Press work I was doing. I needed to hear that. I really needed to hear it and hearing it really helped me feel acknowledged in a deep way. I admit that sometimes I feel stressed with the amount of work involved with Immanion (and to be fair Storm does even more), so getting acknowledgement is really important, especially because a lot of the work is essentially volunteer work. I don’t get paid a salary to do what I do, but I’m doing the publishing for the love of the books and the community.
I also got to meet Ivo Dominguez, Jr. and do a book exchange with him. I was thrilled to talk with him, because I’ve found his blogs intriguing. I’m hoping we’ll get to know each other better, and I’m appreciative of getting some time and just talking with him about publishing and magic. I even got a good suggestion from him about distribution. As an author myself, I always appreciate it when other authors make time for me. I know their time is valuable and it means a lot that they make the time.
2-20-13 The more I work with movement, the more I realize how easy it is to take it for granted. We move everyday, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, but the conscious appreciation of movement makes it very apparent just how integral movement is. Movement defines a person, the identity of the person, creates structure and realization of possibilities. I have moved a lot this month and my work with movement has helped me see how movement can lead to lots of possibilities, but also how movement can limit, under the right circumstances. I feel that purposeful movement can be as much a limitation as a possibility. If I choose to move this way I close one door, but also open others. And the significance of any move is at the same time much more personal than anything else. If I choose to only publish my books with Immanion for instance, it is a personal move made for specific reasons that most people may not care about unless I choose to say something…to move in another way, but even then such significance only really lasts in the life of the person doing the movement.