4-24-13 I had a dream this morning. I was on a road trip with Jim Nadenicek, a friend I knew in my State College days. We were driving through Pittsburgh and just happened to be going by my old elementary school, so I asked him if we could stop in. We did stop and I saw a few teachers I vaguely recognized and read into a woman I knew as a kid. She gave me advice about how to conduct myself around other people. Then I went outside and Jim had this jeep. My car had broken down and we needed to go to the auto repair shop to see what was wrong. An interesting dream that I’m still processing, but I see certain themes in it that are consistent with internal work I’m doing right now. My dreams have become more vivid since I’ve been doing Zhine meditation regularly.
4-26-13 20 years ago in April I started practicing magic. It’s hard to believe that 20 years have passed. I feel proud of myself as a magician when I look at those years and everything I’ve done and explored and I feel excited about the rest of my journey and I’m grateful that barring anything unexpected, I should have a long time to explore my spiritual journey and implement it in this life. How fortunate I am…
4-27-13 I’ve been doing some further reading of the Post Infidelity Stress Disorder book and one of the realizations I’ve had is that until I really explored these problems they would have continued to show up in my relationships. The author makes a good point that a person is attracted to someone who reminds them of their parents or themselves. I see that in my relationship choices. Most of the women I’ve been attracted to have in one way or another reminded me of the strictness of my step mom. Kat’s pretty much the exception and who she is similar to is me. Recognizing these patterns of attraction helps me also see how the behavior has been set up to undermine the relationships. I feel sad about it, but in a weird kind of way also relieved because I have a much better understanding of my issues. And through understanding comes change.
4-30-13 There are days I really don’t want to meditate or exercise. I feel extremely busy or like I have too much on my plate. And yet I know that if I don’t exercise or meditate I am cheating myself of so much. So today was one of those days and I made myself exercise. I feel better for doing it, and I also know it reinforces the discipline I believe is essential. Keeping yourself on track isn’t easy all the time, but the true test is to choose and do something when you don’t feel like doing it, but know you need to.
5-01-13 I got an email from Weiser books today about the Wealth Magic book. They want to look at more chapters of the book. I’m not sure how I feel. Part of me feels happy, vindicated, acknowledged, but another part of me isn’t sure if I really want to go with a big publisher. I have mixed feelings on all of this. I feel conflicted, not sure what choice I’ll make, but Kat and I will discuss it together and then I’ll make a decision about where to go next.
5-02-13 I sent the rest of the manuscript in. I figure I owe myself the opportunity to see what will come of this particular opportunity. Worst they can say is no and if they do say yes, then it’s bargaining time, because I definitely want some say in what happens with the book and how I can use it to promote myself to a larger audience.
5-07-13 Something I’ve come to recognize about myself is that I can be brittle. Kat says I like order, and there is truth in that. I like things in my life and universe to be orderly, to follow certain conventions and to be easy to find. And this is where it can lead to brittleness because sometimes I cling so much to the order that I don’t adapt to what really needs to be changed. My work with movement is helping me realize this brittleness about my personality, and with some work I think I can be more flexible even when my sense of order isn’t as I’d like it to be.
5-15-13 Sometimes I go through periods where I have little to write. This is one of those periods. I’ve learned to accept these moments when they occur as I figure it is just a period of gestation and deeper thought. You can’t rush magic and you can’t rush writing.
5-19-13 Movement is about boundaries as much as anything else. Today I had to tell someone my boundaries around a specific topic. It wasn’t easy to do it, but I realized that I didn’t need to be moved to the head space that I felt moved to when discussing the topic with that person. So setting up that boundary was really a healthy action taken. There are some memories you don’t want to revisit, especially if you are an abuse survivor of any type. Those memories can put you in a space of being a victim and while it is important to work through those memories, it should be done in a way that is empowering to the person.
I’ve been thinking lately about my role in my household. I am not the chief bread winner. Kat is the chief bread winner of the house hold and I am comfortable with that. Nonetheless I also contribute in my own way. I clean and cook, I take care of the cats and the kids as needed. I take care of Kat and support her in what she is doing. And I do bring in some income with my businesses and that income is increasing. We both work hard to make sure our household is a stable one. I feel lucky to be with such a wonderful person who is dedicated to me and to the spiritual work we do.
5-21-13 Kat and I got a Synastry reading over the weekend, basically an astrological comparison of her and I’s chart. It was helpful and confirmed certain patterns of behavior and ongoing life changes for both of us, as well as showing each of us how we could support each other through those changes. One of the issues it reminded me of was the importance of letting go of needing to be in control and instead continuing to accept that I don’t have control over everything, but I do have control over how I work with it. In April I started a particular Pluto conjunction, which is a dark night of the soul and I’d have to say that I’ve certainly seen evidence of it in my life in little ways, but instead of letting it control me or feeling helpless, I’ve chosen to roll with it, accept that I don’t have control over everything, but also ask myself what I do have control over. And what I’ve found is that by letting go in some cases and acknowledging that I don’t have control, I can actually discover choices that provide me a way to resolve the situation in my favor. And there’s a key realization about movement here: Choosing to move with something you can’t control allows you to find control through the movement. You accept you can’t control the situation as it is, but you learn to move with the situation until you discover the options that provide opportunities for you.