Month 10 Elemental Balancing Ritual – Movement grains of sand

Posted on August 22, 2013
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Eros

7-25-2013 I had a realization this morning, as I was driving to a business meeting. I felt this profound sense of being loved by Kat, and allowing myself to feel comfortable with being loved by Kat. I realized I’d never been comfortable with being loved. Being loved was a surrender of control, a surrender to being vulnerable, a surrender to allowing someone else to touch me deeply. It’s not something I’ve ever been comfortable with from anyone, but today as I drove to this meeting, I felt comfortable with being loved, and accepting that someone could love me as deeply as Kat does. It was so moving and yet so still. I am loved and I can accept that love.

7-30-2013 Something I’ve always struggled with is expressing what I’m feeling. Early on, I learned to keep what I felt to myself, because if I expressed it, I got punished for it. By keeping it to myself, I shut myself off from my emotions, and even though I’ve gotten better about expressing what I’m feeling, it’s still a challenge, especially if I’m expressing something which I know will make someone unhappy. I’ve learned though that it’s better to express myself and deal with the emotions, instead of pretending that they aren’t there. While the immediate response may not be one where the person is thrilled with me, if they are willing to communicate with me, eventually will reach a place of resolution. Reminding myself of that is what gives me the courage to open up and express myself instead of continuing to keep myself locked down.

7-31-13 I saw the film Kon Tiki tonight, which is a biographical film about the Kon Tiki expedition. I was inspired, touched, motivated by this film, by this simple truth that just because something is controversial doesn’t mean you should give up or stop believing in what you are doing. Too often people are willing to settle for mediocrity, for whatever is taken for granted and not challenged. And yet it is only when we are willing to challenge what is established that we can determine if it even still has value or is just dragging us back. I suppose this is one reason I’ve always bucked dogma, because if you hold to dogma and never question it, it becomes rote doctrine, which leads to close minded fanaticism. Such fanaticism does little to benefit the world, and much more to harm it.

8-2-13 I’m seeing a lot of clearing away in my business coaching practice. Clients are wrapping up and I’m getting some movement, time, etc., just cleared away for me. Part of me worries. The rest of me sees it as an opportunity to work on the writing, while also training myself to be better at what I love to do.

8-6-13 With internal work you go through cycles and cycles of work. You have realizations about yourself or the world only to cycle down further into the mental strata and have deeper realizations that nonetheless are the same. This is part of doing the work and part of realizing that such work isn’t automatically done, but instead is experienced as a recurring process that gradually leads you to a place of greater awareness and conscious change. You can have the same realization several times over and yet it can be something which speaks to you in a different way each time.

8-8-13 Lately I’ve been having some memories come up, sensations really, but ones that are triggering in an unpleasant way. I’ve been doing some internal work around these sensations. It’s not that I necessarily want to feel the sensations, but rather that I want to understand why they are even coming up in the first place. The answer, so far, is that likely I’m experiencing a partially blocked memory from my early childhood (I think) of possible molestation. I’m continuing to work with it, because while it might be easier to just let it remained block, it also ends up creating an energetic blockage that I don’t want to sustain. It’s hard work because what I’m facing as a result are sensations and experiences that I don’t think anyone would want to experience, and yet I feel it is essential for true healing to occur. Part of me doesn’t want to face whatever is behind that block, so I’m going slow and carefully with the work and I may stop if I feel its too much, but I would like to dissolve the blockage associated with the sensations, as I think it would help me immensely.

8-11-13 I had this dream last night where I had signed up to go to this space station and mine an asteroid for a couple years, and then I’d come back with money (I’m sure this will be a reality some day). However what happened was that I was stuck in this program, and there was a robot double being created that would go back after two years and then die within a year, while they kept using my body for whatever they wanted to use it for. And so I started to rebel against the system I was in, and eventually found a way to disconnect myself from the virtual world, as did the other people and we started to disconnecting other people and fighting the administrators who were maintaining the system. Then I became someone else, this dying woman that this virtual world had been created for and she was a princess in this virtual world, but she also found out how it was sustained and started helping the rebellion from the inside.

8-12-13 Today’s meditation work has been hard for me, and I’ve had a low level of functionality as a result. During my meditation I ended up flashing back to that sensation of being molested. When I have these flashbacks, its not visual. Instead it is tactile, which makes it worse, because I can’t really distance myself from what I’m feeling. It’s a very raw experience, and I feel fragile today because of processing those feelings. I could feel, as I meditated, that the level of distress my body felt continued to rise as I meditated on and dissolved the blockage. It’s hard work because it’s calling on me to remember and face something that I’m only recalling now at the age of 36. Clearly it was a traumatic experience then, and it certainly is now. As a result I haven’t felt very productive today. I’ve been in a funk and that has bothered me as well, because I certainly have enough to do, but whether I’m capable of doing it is something else altogether.

Kat and I’ve also finished reading After the Affair, which has been a good read for me because it has helped me explore my history with infidelity, both in my family and in my own actions. I’m not proud of my past actions in my previous relationships and I’ve felt a deeper level of recognition, responsibility, and empathy toward people I’ve hurt in the past due to my own baggage. I can’t change what’s happened, but I see how much that behavior has impacted my life and how it has hurt other people and I am glad that I am continuing to change my standards of behavior, to become a better person. I don’t want to leave the wake of chaos and pain that I have left in the past through my actions. I see now as well how the polyamory label allowed me to justify a lot of behaviors without examining them, though that’s no fault of the label, but rather my own fault for not digging deeper and really examining what I wanted or needed. It’s hard to sit with all of that, but I know that I can’t genuinely change if I don’t recognize the past and really understand where I’ve been, so that I can know where I can go.

8-15-2013 The other day, in my meditation on movement, I reached out to Eros and asked him why he hadn’t shown up all that much and he said he didn’t feel the need to show up if I was moving in the right direction. When I’m going someplace different, then he’ll show up as a guide. I think also that as I’ve continued to do these elemental balancing workings, it’s been easier for me to connect directly with the element. When I first started having a guide that mediated the element was helpful for conceptualization purposes, but now working with an elemental force directly isn’t such a stretch.

8-17-13 There are occasions where I feel outside any and everything, where I feel like I don’t belong. I think this is a feeling many people experience. I think of how that feeling can move a person in both positive and negative directions. That feeling has moved in both directions, and even now I feel it on occasion. It’s a powerful feeling which speaks as much to the inadequate feelings a person has about him/herself as well as the longing to belong to something larger or bigger. The key, when you feel this way, isn’t to try and fill yourself up with whatever or whoever you find, but rather to be present with the emotion and work through it.

8-21-13 The website has a different look because someone hacked the theme I was using and had some javascript running. I came up with a solution of sorts. I liked the old theme, and at some point I am going to get a different design made, but this will have to do for the meantime.

In other news, the last two days my meditation on the element of movement has taken a deeper turn. Yesterday as I as meditating Eros came to visit and he showed me a perspective of movement and myself where I felt like a tiny grain of sand among many, many other grains of sand, and what movement I could do was just a tiny movement, that might cause a ripple in the immediate area, but wasn’t significant beyond that. I felt how small I really am in all that movement, recognizing in the process that everything else is also that small. Everything is moving or trying to move, but all of those movements, individually are small…yet put together you can find patterns and those patterns are created by the movement of each person, ting, etc., not because of one person, but because there is a agreement of some type when it comes to movement.

Today’s meditation was a deep one, but in a similar vein of expression. I was a mote of light moving with other motes of light. My expressions of movement weren’t original per se, but all part of this greater pattern that I’m a part of. I moved as part of a movement. Both experiences were humbling, but also beautiful and terrible at the same time. I’m not sure where its all going, but I’m going with it and I’m open to it because I know that I am moved as much if not more than what I move.

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