Recently Stephanie Connolly Reisner made a post about success and magic. It was and excellent read and she made a point which I think is important: Having you’re act together is an essential part of being successful. She has definite ideas of what success means and she is manifesting that success in her life (When it comes to Wealth Magic, IMO that is what tells you that you are successful). she’s aiming for what she wants to manifest and she’s not letting anything stop her. I respect that, a lot, because I think too many people have been taught to aim low and consequently get far too comfortable with circumstances that aren’t conducive to success. They rationalize away these circumstances, but settle for less than what they could do, if they just pushed themselves to aim higher. From my own experiences of being poor and from knowing other people in such circumstances, I can say that being poor sucks and while you can still enjoy life, there’s something to be said for having your life be more stable, because it allows you to have more of the experiences that make life worth living. Jason makes the point that while money isn’t the main point of doing magic, having stability in your finances can be quite helpful in improving your quality of life and having time to do what you want to do. Again, I agree with what he’s mentioned.
In Manifesting Wealth, I admit that I occasionally wondered if I should really be writing a book on wealth magic, because my financial circumstances aren’t the best (though they are continually getting better each year). However, I decided to write the book because while money is a significant topic in the book so is health, love, career, and business, and when I look at my life, I feel that as I’m continuing to get my act together I am also continuing to manifest the physical circumstances that support the life I choose to live. I also wrote it because I’ve always believed in living life on my terms instead of someone else’s and I think that attitude is essential toward really achieving whatever success is to you. So when I think about success in wealth magic, I think there are some foundational components: Finance, Love, Health, doing what you love, and living life by your rules (Those are my standards, so feel free to come up with your own if you don’t agree with mine).
Finance: Finance is knowing how to budget, how balance your checkbook, how to pay your bills, and how to plan for your future. It’s also knowing what you want to do with the money you’ve got. In my experience, a lot of people don’t seem to know what they want to use money for. They pay bills and live paycheck to paycheck, but they don’t have a plan for it beyond that. Or perhaps they know they want to be out of debt, but after that? My plan does involve having as little debt as possible (I think most people, even ones with their acts together, have some debt), but it also involves retirement accounts, emergency savings, and knowing what’s important enough for me to justify spending money on (For example I can tell you that buying board or video game for me is an investment as opposed to a cost, because of the amount of time and enjoyment I get from aforementioned purchase).
Love: A stable relationship (or relationships if that’s your preference) is a must. A stable relationship, imo, involves lots of communication between you and your SO. And the communication needs to happen in regards to everything that is shared in your relationship. You have to be able to communicate about finances, sex, spirituality, what you want to do for fun, etc., because if you don’t communicate (or if you fight all the time) than you don’t have a stable foundation. A stable relationship makes life much easier for everyone and makes it possible to do a lot of things that would be harder to do otherwise. From my own experience, I can say that being in a stable relationship has done a lot to help me in every other area of my life.
Health: You can have lots of money, but if you don’t have health that money will go right back into keeping you alive. Health means eating right, eating the right portions, exercising, meditating, and otherwise taking care of yourself physically and mentally. I’ve found that since I started exercising regularly again that I’m much happier and more focused. Changing my eating habits has also helped immensely. Your health, imo, is your first source of wealth and the one you have to take care of the most, because the older you get, the more you feel the changes. I know, for example, that how I felt ten years ago is different than how I feel now and even though I do exercise regularly, I can still tell the difference.
Doing what you love: Doing what you love means you are following your calling, in some capacity or another. It might not be your full time career (though hopefully you like that) but you should still be pursuing what you love to do in some fashion. I’ll admit that in my case, I greatly prefer not to work for other people and find that doing what I love necessitates being self-employed. Being self-employed makes me happy because I can work with who I want, in the capacity I want. It’s a lot of work and effort, but if you keep at it, the results will incrementally improve. I’ll admit having someone who believes in you when you do the self-employed route makes it much easier.
Living Life by Your Own Rules: Living life by your own rules is similar to doing what you love, but is distinct in that you recognize what’s really important to you and you live it. You live life on your terms and you don’t compromise unless that compromise is something you can accept and live with because it still honors you living life by your rules (and yes this is possible).
Those are my standards of success and while I am not completely satisfied with a couple of those areas, I am consistently working toward them and I’m seeing results. That’s what matters, imo. If you know what you want and don’t have it, keep working toward it. Develop a plan, do some magic and keep implementing until you get it. Doing that will bring you success in wealth magic and your life.