What love magic won’t do

Posted on November 28, 2010
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I’m re-reading The Passionate Marriage (Affiliate link) by David Schnarch. It’s an excellent book for any type of romantic relationship and my re-reading of it has already allowed me to recognize nuances that I’d missed the first time around. And perhaps most telling for me is something which I think applies to any area of life, whether its love, finances, work, etc. Namely you’ve got to work at a relationship to make it work.

When I think about love magic, I think of the stereotype of the rejected lover who decides to do love magic as a way of getting his/her ex back. And sometimes it works, but in a disastrous manner where the effected person doesn’t so much love the person as s/he is obsessed with the person. Kind of like the guy in the movie The Craft (Affiliate link). He can’t stop thinking about the girl who cast the spell on him, even after she’s no longer interested in him. And what love magic can’t do is it can’t really make someone love someone else. It can, when done right, put you into circumstances where you meet your next lover, but its still up to you in the end.

And there’s something to be said for actually loving yourself, as cliched as that may sound. It is hard for other people to love a person that doesn’t feel some degree of self-respect and love. It quickly becomes apparent if the person doesn’t feel that way about him/herself.

Love magic won’t make a person love you, or make you love yourself. That work is on you. At best love magic can increase the possibilities that you’ll meet a person that fits your circumstances. Or it may help you come to a better understanding of your own issues with love, if you direct it toward yourself. Love magic isn’t the cure for the missing date at Valentine’s Day.

Love takes work. It’s a beautiful feeling to experience, but once you get down to it, its more than just a feeling and really experiencing it involves learning a lot more about how you communicate with others and yourself about your needs, while also learning to listen to their needs. Remember that before doing any love magic, be ready to fully handle the results that come your way!

Book Review: The Nine Doors of Midgard (Affiliate link) by Edred

This is a curriculum of rune work that teaches people about runes from a variety of angles including rune yoga, chanting, and pathworking. However, it’s also much more than that. It’s a program that’s designed to teach you how to fully integrate the runes into your life so that you can use meaningfully. It’s a book I would recommend to anyone who wants to learn runes, but I would also recommend getting the recommended reading that the author points readers to. This isn’t a book for a beginner or a book just to be read. It is a book that opens doors to new experiences and it is on you to actually go an experience what it offers.

5 out of 5

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